Jivi,
Checkout
http://msdn.microsoft.com/webservices/building/wse/default.aspx?pull=/library/en
-us/dnwse/html/wsemessaging.asp
The easiest way to address this is for the client subscriber to send a
subscription message to the notification service that contains a "notifyTo"
element containing the client's return notification URI. The notification
service then remembers the notifyTo address and uses it to send async
notifications.
Check out the sync eventing sample from the above WSE 2.0 white paper.

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Michael Herman
Parallelspace Corporation
Developers of Advanced Business Collaboration Solutions for Microsoft
SharePoint, Microsoft Live Communications Server and Groove Workspace
Portal and Content Migration Solution Specialists:
http://www.parallelspace.net/sharepoint
SharePoint Migration Knowledge Center:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sharepointmigration
> As nobody replied - i thought i'd reformat the problem a bit to make
> things clearer :-)
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> I'll try and put up a Version 3 of this question if it still isnt
> clear