They don't like what I say, but that's what I feel.

Once you have a template column, you get stuck. U have no way of
finding the control in your code-behind.

Suppose you place a button in a template column, then you can find the
button with the CommandSource property of
UltraWebGridCommandEventArgs, but you get lost about what row it is
in.

You want to wire some value of a row to the button as its
CommandArgument?  Forget about it, there is no way to do it.

I thought that I could do it in the InitializeRow method, but their
FindControl method simply cannot find the control in the template
column.

The worst part is, online resources are very limited about their
product.  They do have a forum, but you see one or two posts there a
day, and most questions are either not answered or kicked back to
their dumb documentation.

Think twice before you jump.